I think we can all admit, dating is a chore!  It takes a lot of effort and patience to date.  Fortunately, there is light at the end of the tunnel.  Although I am no longer single, I learned and perfected it and wanted to share some tips in hopes of helping you or someone you know during the dreadful process.  During my single years, I was working full time and a busy mom of teenagers.   However, through the process I developed some dating “rules” that really worked for me.  I have a few single friends now that come to me for dating advice.  Some may say my approach is a bit cold and harsh, but I feel like if every single person would heed my advice, their dating process would improve significantly.
First before I go over my rules for dating, here is a few little caveats to keep in mind: 

• Online dating is the way to go.  Some people feel that it is too digital and that love should happen naturally, but in today’s day and age, especially with Covid-19, where are you going to go to meet someone and even before Covid-19, who wants to go to a loud bar to try and connect with someone?  Not me!  Bars are for drinking, dancing and making bad decisions.  😊 Online dating allows you to be able to filter through the deal breakers and must haves (looks, background, interests, religion, politics, etc.). 
• Deal breakers vs. red flags:  Deal breakers are things that you are just not willing to compromise on.  The list is different for everyone, but you should NEVER compromise things that are important to you in an effort to find love!  A red flag, on the other hand, is something that doesn’t sit right with you, but could possibly have a legitimate explanation.

Ok, so since you are still reading this, I am assuming you want to hear more, so here it is…

Rule #1:  The first date should ONLY be a “meet and greet” that should not last more than 30 minutes.  This expectation should be communicated in advance with whoever you are meeting up with.  This allows you an “out” if you get there and they are 5’3” rather than 6’, like their profile stated, or 350 lbs rather than the “athletic build” they described themselves as.  Additionally, It allows the other person an out in case you are not what they expected.  There is nothing worse than having to sit through a long, drawn out date and dreading it from the get-go.   At the end of the meet and greet, if there is a mutual connection, then it leaves you with excitement and anticipation for the “real” date. 

Note:  The meet and greet should never last over 30 minutes (typically coffee or a  meet up at the park) and should always be Dutch treat (each pays for themselves).
 
Rule #2:  Second date…NO SEX!!!  This may be hard for some of you, but let’s be real…you don’t even know this person or who they have been with.  And even more than that, for most people, that emotional connection should be the most important at this point.  Once that connection is made, the physical connection is inevitable.  This date should be used to ask questions of one another and really get to know them as best as possible. 

Note:  God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason…LISTEN!!  My biggest pet peeve is when you are trying to say something and someone keeps interrupting or when the other person dominates the conversation.  Ask questions, allow them to answer and they should do the same for you.  If you are finding that the conversation is not 50/50 this is a red flag (not a deal breaker, but definitely a red flag).
 
Rule #3:  Serial dating is OK.  It is ok to date multiple people at the same time.  At this point, you are getting to know people and find out who you have the best connection with.  Some people may have a few red flags for you but if you limit yourself to dating just that one person, you may miss the opportunity to find the person that has no red flags.  When/if the time is right, you should both mutually agree that it is time to commit to the relationship.

Note:  Make sure you are open and upfront with the person that you are just dating and that you have not committed to be in a relationship. 

I hope you found some value (or at least humor) in my 3 tips for dating.  Comment below on what your rules are, how you feel about my rules and/or if you have anything you would like to add!  

Happy dating!

​February is the month of love, so this month I am sharing products I am loving!  You should know this about me - I am the kind of person who buys every new item that comes on the market.  If it looks cool, I’ll buy it.  With that said, 85% of what I buy ends up only being used once and then stored in my closet’s “junk basket."  When I find something that truly brings me joy every time I use it, I want to shout it from the rooftops!  (I am not sponsored by any of these items, I just like to share the love with others.)  
Household:  

• Surpahs Over the sink multipurpose Roll-up Dish drying rack:  I used to have my folding wooden dish drying rack taking up space on my countertop. As a baker, I need every inch of my kitchen's counter top, so to me this wooden drying rack was wasting space.  When I found this drying rack that rested over the sink, I fell in love! So much so that everyone who came to my house needed to experience the visual love it brought me, even if they could care less.  This drying rack frees up some much-needed counter space and it doesn’t get moldy like the wooden racks do.  (I found this on Amazon.)

 
Health:  These 3 items are my daily go-to items.  

• Dr. Bornner’s Lavender Organic Hand Sanitizer:  These days we are all using (or should be using) hand sanitizers on a regular basis. I have found some to smell a little funky and sometimes even drying to my skin.  This hand sanitizer and it is my #1 Go-To…it smells amazing and doesn’t leave my hands feeling dry.  (I found this at Trader Joes.)

 

• Emergen-C:  In addition to hand sanitizers, I have made my daily routine to include a shot of Emergen-C.  My hubby and I take Emergen-C “shots" every day together as we clink glasses and toast to continued health!  One “shot” (or packet) is loaded with tons of nutrients, including 1,000 mg of Vitamin C, zinc, B vitamins and electrolytes to help boost our systems.  Who doesn’t need that, these days?  (These are available every where - I got mine at CVS.)

 

• Built Bars:  I am a choc-o-holic!  If I could, I would eat chocolate for every meal!  These bars are the first protein bars I actually crave!  They come in a ton of different flavors, but my personal favorites are the Banana Nut Bread (it doesn’t sound like it, but it is so good!  It tastes like a chocolate dipped banana.)  I also love the Coconut Almond (it tastes like an Almond Joy)!!  They are loaded with protein and are low in calories and sugar.  Definitely a must-try.  (I have not seen these in stores yet, so just go to their website to order.)

Beauty:  

• Revlon One Step Hair Dryer and Volumizer Hot Air Brush:  My hair dresser, who is also my very close friend, told me this was a must-have!!  I immediately ordered one and my mind is blown.  Typically I blow dry my hair, but with this “brush” I can actually style my hair.    I can’t believe I lived this long without it!  (I got mine from Amazon.)

 

• Holler and Glow Purrfect Pedi Intensive Transforming Foot Peel Sock Mask:  Ok everyone!!!  This was an accidental find.  My friend and I went for a Girls' Weekend Get-A-Way late last year. She bought us a ton of things for a “spa night” including hair masks, face masks, and these foot masks.  You put the mask on your feet for about an hour and within 7 days your heels and callouses will start to peel.  Your feet will peel for a few days and honestly, this part of the process is a bit gross. However, once the peeling is done, your feet will feel like a baby’s butt!  So soft and gorgeous.  (I found these at Target for under $5.)

TV Show:  

• The Home Edit (Netflix):  If you love organizing, this show will totally inspire you!  I am the kind of person that I have to organize my pantry and refrigerator BEFORE I can put groceries away.  I also, only buy one color or towels so that my linen closet matches.  My friend told me about this Netflix show and I binged watched it.  Then, I followed them on Instagram and we are now BFF’s, although they don’t know it yet.  

Instagram Account:  

• Among many cookie decorator accounts, I absolutely love, “Live Composed” and “The Home Edit”.  Any new post I see, I have to either copy it in my home or send it to my daughter to do in her home.

Book/Audiobook:  

• Anything Rachel Hollis – “Girl Stop Apologizing”.  I have become an avid book reader / audio book listener.  When I go walking in the mornings, I listen to a Rachel Hollis book and it starts my day as though I just took an energy drink.  I feel empowered and inspired.  She’s hilarious and adorable and inspiring all at the same time.  I absolutely love her and am proud that she and I are BFF’s as well, even though she doesn’t know it yet either.  😊

Hi - I’m Jen and I'm a cookie-holic!  During the holidays you'll find me watching hours of Food Network programming, especially the baking and cookie challenges. 

My passion for baking started in early childhood but really blossomed in 1994 when I married.  I've always loved being a homemaker, especially baking sweet treats for family and friends.  I remember one year my sister was hosting Thanksgiving and she asked me to bring a dessert.  For some reason my brain thought six desserts would be better.  The dessert table that year was almost as big as the dinner table! 

A couple of years ago I read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.  After reading the book I immediately took the online quiz. No surprise - my love language is “Acts Of Service."  The joy I get from baking something delicious and sweet is incredibly satisfying, even if it’s only to post on social media for others to enjoy. Cooking meals has always been a chore for me, but baking truly brings me joy. 

In 2015 I attended my first, in-person cookie decorating class and something “clicked.” At that moment I knew I needed to leave the Corporate world and pursue my passion for baking. My focus…custom cookies! Today, cookie baking and decorating is my full-time job, and my passion. 
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I’d like to thank you for stopping by to learn a bit about who I am. I hope you’ll be back! 

PS  Have you met my sweet granddaughter?  This is Braelyn Claire.  She is the love of my life!!